Showdown At Big Sky: I MUST Respectfully Disagree

How do you handle conflict? Boldly and directly? Or, do you prefer a more subtle approach?

Unfortunately, how I handle conflict depends on whom the conflict is with.  For instance, if it’s with my daughter or her husband, I usually handle myself badly, by that I mean, very raw and in their face.  If it’s with a peer or someone older than me, I usually handle myself with a lot more restraint and respect.  Wow, reading my answer to the question is disturbing and gross, why should I treat my children with less respect than someone older?  Especially, when they recently earned my respect for things they’ve done right!  Or maybe I should say better than I did at their age.

My goodness, I’m glad I did this Daily Prompt, to see what’s really going on inside my head/heart.  Being subtle has its place, because not everyone needs a drop kick in the pants to get the message.  Also, by handling someone with gentleness, can glean better results.  Plus, being a defensive jerk, exposes you to all kinds of ridicule, and consequences of a negative response in return. So in retrospect, I think I will try my best to handle things quickly and quietly, and more specifically, better than I have in the past with my daughter and her husband, and that’s the honest answer. ~ Musings&Rants

Bears** 2014

Sky and her babes/imag:

Sky and her babes./image:

Disney has put out a good nature movie, and I don’t usually like nature movies, since it’s hard to tell if the audience is being manipulated with editing, to fit the script, or if they catch everything as is. So, since I don’t know, I liked the way it played out on-screen.

The premise: Sky and her cubs are waking up from a 6 month slumber.  The babies are brand new and have to learn the ropes of the wild.  Sky, needs to eat, since she’s been in hibernation so she has to get nourishment for herself, and continue to nurse her babies. As this family makes their way over snowy Alaskan mountains, the whole bear community is making their quest too.

As she crosses the flatlands of Alaska, she’s trying to get to the Salmon that are making their way up the river to spawn.  As she does, she’s met by some formidable foes, Magnus, Chinook, and Tikaani.  Magnus and Chinook are both male bears who are also hungry and want to eat the cubs.  Tikaani, is a male wolf who would like to eat a cub as well.  And since Sky has to leave her cubs to go fish, the dangers are ever-present with these guys.

Sky catching Salmon./image:

Sky catching Salmon./image:

The most breathtaking aspect of nature movies these days, is the digital photography. It’s brilliant to watch how beautifully the camera captures every detail of its subject matter. The crisp clean images, and slow motion sequences, made this movie pop, and almost makes you forget you’re sitting in a theater watching.

The directors, Alastair Fothergill and Keith Scoley, are amazing and meticulous with this new digital technology.  Another aspect of watching these kinds of films, is the outtakes when the credits roll, it’s as interesting to watch that as it is the movie.  Since the camera crew is right out in bear country, with these wild unpredictable animals, literally sleeping in tents!  And, how do they get those close-ups of a mother bear and babies hibernating without waking them up?  

The Sum Up: With a wonderful music score, and compelling imagery, Bears is a great family movie.  Voice actor, John C. Reilly, Talladega Nights, also adds a charm to the film, with his playful sounding voice, it makes the scary scenes a little less intense, and the fun scenes more fun.  As for my score, this gets an A, see it in theaters, it’s that good.  Also, children 3 and up can see this one. Rated PG. ~ Musings&Rants

The Race: Asian Australian, Part 10


This post is exceptional, it has much to teach about race relations, with it’s in-depth storyline, in regards to Mabel, a Chinese-Malaysian in Australia, is riveting. Another whopper from Holistic Wayfarer…

Originally posted on A Holistic Journey:

1) How do you define yourself racially or ethnically and why is it important to you? Please tell us about the racial makeup of your family if you were adopted or come from a colorful family.

I was born in Australia to very traditional Chinese-Malaysian parents. The word “Malaysian” refers to a nationality. There are predominantly three races living in Malaysia – Chinese, Malay and Indian. A very long time ago, the Chinese came and settled in Malaysia. My grandparents – and many generations before them – were born in Malaysia. My relatives and extended family don’t know where our ancestors originated. We don’t talk about Chinese history but the history of Malaysia. We’ve always considered ourselves Chinese people living in Malaysia. We don’t identify with China the country but with Chinese culture. Chinese Malaysian is similar to the term, say, Korean American.



When I was growing up in Melbourne…

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Draft Day, Wasn’t Torture

Kevin, finally has found his acting skills/image:

Kevin, finally has found his acting skills/image:

Kevin Costner, is trying something new!!!  He’s become an actor!!!  He’s ameliorated his craft, and has now found a rhythm to communicating with his audience. No more is he, just saying his lines and expecting us to like it.  So it’s not painful to watch him on-screen as it once was.

Perhaps it’s because audiences expect more from actors now, than in the past. For instance, if you’re an actor now, you have to squeeze out a few tears if it’s a cry scene.  If you’re angry in a scene, your face should show it, and if you’re in a sleep scene, don’t have a glob of makeup on when you wake up, (this one is especially true for women).  Because none of that’s believable and Kevin finally is getting it right, where he wasn’t before.

The Premise:  Sonny Weaver, Costner, is the general manager of the Cleveland Browns football team and it’s draft season.  And for some reason all the player must be on this team. As he muddles over some star draft picks he’s in a quandary about a quarterback and other key positioned players.  His boss, Frank Langella, is pressuring him, his coach, Dennis Leary, is pressuring him, and almost everyone else in the league not to mention his mother, Ellen Burstyn.  Which makes him question himself, and the character of some of the football players he’s considering.

This story is reminiscent of Moneyball, with Brad Pitt, but football instead of baseball.  As, it was a bit predictable because of Moneyball, but interesting.  What made it so, is for anyone watching who knows little about the sport, being a football buff wasn’t required. As it showed how impersonal the NFL draft is, and since it’s such big business, football players are like cattle, or horses at an auction.  It’s a sad commentary on the politics behind the game. Although, it did try to show the human side of the wheeling and dealing, but with too little character development on the draft picks.  The film did attempt to show the main character in a sensitive light, as he appeared to care about the draft picks.

The dialog was good and fast paced, and didn’t seem preachy but had a silly side story. With the time-worn theme, of an older man chasing after a woman, Jennifer Garner, young enough to have fathered, it’s shallow, and disturbing, especially since she probably has daddy issues and co dependency problems.  It’s puzzling, why writers can’t fathom a woman of middle age being attractive and desirable to a man the same age?  What’s really going on with this tired storyline/stereotype?  It just perpetuates the thinking, that ALL middle-aged men are in a persistent mid-life crisis, with no choice in the matter.  In Costner’s case, it’s unfortunate that art mirrors life, as for divorcing his wife, and marrying a younger woman, the same age as the character in the movie, and it’s still a dumb cliché.  Come to think of it, this role wasn’t a stretch for him at all.

Costner and Garner, his love intrest???/image:

Costner, and Garner, his love interest???/image:

The Sum Up: With good dialog, fast paced story, and Costner’s biography on-screen (exaggerating a little), this movie get’s a B, for see it on dvd or in theaters, but see it.  I couldn’t give it a A because of the underdeveloped storylines of the draft picks, or silly romantic side story, sheesh, that nearly made me angry.  With some language and a dubious relationship, I have to give this flick a ***Safety Alert.***  This movie is not for children under 14, Pg 13. ~ Musings&Rants